Build your local network

Theory

Settling in goes faster when you aren't doing it alone. Neighbors, libraries, schools, community and cultural groups, faith organizations, and other newcomer families already know the local answers: which office to call, which program still has room, where the weekend classes are. Towns also hold community meetings, and many local officials have office hours where residents can ask questions. A few steady connections in your first months turn a new town into your town.

Method

1. A library card: public libraries in Wake County, Durham, and Chapel Hill offer free cards to residents, plus free programs and staff who can point you to local services.
2. Your child's school: read the school newsletter, and join the PTA or a volunteer list if you can.
3. One community or cultural group: a weekend language school, a sports club, a faith or cultural organization, or a class at a community center.
4. A neighbor: introduce yourself and ask one practical question, like trash day, the school bus stop, or the best nearby park.
5. Your town's newsletter or events calendar: sign up, and go to one local event this month (see Triangle events).

Action: your next block

• Pick two of the five connections and do them this week.
• Write down one person or group you can ask when you're stuck.